How-To Set Your Table Like A Professional This Holiday Season

Every friend group has a Monica Geller. You know the one – the hostess with the most-est among you and your girl friends. I know this because I am that friend of my friend group. I always joke that Monica Geller (mixed with Joanna Gaines!) is my spirit animal. My heart for hosting has been beating since I was a little girl, and my love for holidays run deep.

But joking aside, I really do love hosting. Not only do I love it, but I also find it really important. We’re even called to hospitality in the bible. I feel like it is one of the gifts that God gave me. So, to me, opening my home to love on others and encourage them is kingdom work. God gave me this home. Why not use it to reach others, right?

“Each of you should use whatever gifts you have received to serve others as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” – 1 Peter 4:10

My heart for hosting was actually the heart behind launching my blog and business. This mission of mine is really to help all of my friends (you!) be intentional on creating spaces to gather and celebrating life’s precious moments. Whether that be something big like an upcoming wedding, a party, or even something as simple as having loved ones in your home, it’s about making memories that last a lifetime. And if there’s any time of the year where you’re most likely to gather and make memories with your loved ones, it’s the holidays.

Overcoming Holiday Hosting Pressure

In all seriousness, when it comes to hosting your loved ones for the holidays, there’s a lot of pressure for perfection put on people. It’s honestly not talked about enough how we’re trained by social media to ‘Go Big or Go Home.’ However, it’s not about perfection. It’s not about being the Pinterest perfect hostess with the perfect tablescape and hot cocoa bar. In the end, it’s about gathering together, loving on one another, and making memories.

Making an impression on your guests is a lot more simple than you think. (It just takes a little more love!) I’m a firm believer that it’s the little things that you can do to step up your holiday hosting game that make all the difference. That’s why my philosophy is and always will be to live simply, love generously, and host with heart.

There’s a reason why I put a little more attention and love into the food and the table each time I host people in my home. There’s just something about the level of conversation that happens and the memories made over a meal or cup of coffee that I love so much. Throughout my entire life, some of my favorite memories were made sitting around a table.

How-To Set Your Table Like A Pro

Setting your table is probably one of the most simple steps you can take to leave a lasting impression on your guests. It sets the tone for the meal and it’s the first thing they’ll notice when they walk in your dining room. Not to mention, you can do it with what you already have in your home! So, whether this is your first year hosting the holidays or you’re sticking to just a dinner party with the girls, you’ll be a tablescape pro by the end of this blog post!

Basic / Casual Setting

When it comes to a casual, basic place setting, it’s all about the basics. All you need is a dinner plate (center), a dinner fork (left), a dinner knife (right, with the blade facing the plate), a spoon (right), a beverage glass (top right), and a napkin. With this type of setting, don’t feel like you have to put out extra utensils if they aren’t needed. Save yourself the dishes and spend more time socializing after dinner with your guests.

Informal Setting

Take your basic tablesetting to a slightly more elegant level while keeping it light and informal with the addition of just a few utensils.

Salad Fork – far left
Soup Spoon – far right
Wine Glass – top right, next to water/beverage glass

Formal Setting

Taking your tablesetting to the most elegant level is actually a lot more simple than you’d think. If you think it’s intimidating to set a formal table, remember that it just takes the addition of utensils and a few more dishes. Make sure to pin the image below for a quick reference to save you time later!

Salad Plate – on top of the dinner plate
White Wine Glass – top right, next to each beverage/water glass
Red Wine Glass – top right, next to the white wine glass
Bread Plate + Bread Knife – top left
Dessert Fork – top center, facing right
Dessert Spoon – top center, facing left
Charger Plate – beneath dinner plate
Place Card – top center
Cup and Saucer – far right

One thing I love to include in any tablesetting, regardless of how formal or informal, is a charger plate beneath the dinner plate. While charger plates are typically reserved for more elegant and formal settings, I love how their addition brings each setting to life and gives them a simple yet beautiful touch that completes the table. Another thing I love to do is to play with the napkin fold. Whether you lay it elegantly off the table, dress it up with a napkin ring, or experiment with a fancy fold, get creative!

Remember: It’s Your Table

Before you get stressed out on the technicality of setting the perfect table, it’s important to remember that there are literally more ways to set a table than you can count. Because, while everyone may try to follow the basic guidelines, everyone does it a tad differently. You don’t have to stick strictly to basic, informal, or formal settings. Like the picture above, I often set mine as some version in between the three! Ultimately, set your table to meet the needs of the meal you’re sharing.

Whether you’re setting your table casual or formal this holiday season or maybe even somewhere in between, it’s your table. What’s important are the people you’re sitting around it with.

Well, friends, I hope this post will help give you some guidance on how to set your table for the holidays this year. Which of these three styles do you gravitate to when setting your table? I often set mine as some version in between the three! Tell me how you like to set your table in a comment below!

How-To Set Your Table Like A Professional This Holiday Season